One my of client commented once, “I doubt the saying that all parents love their children and they will always be available for me emotionally.” This client has a mother with narcissistic personality traits and a father with borderline personality traits. Throughout her childhood, she did not receive adequate care both physically and emotionally by …
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Rumination is actually common for most people when we face difficulties, challenges or crisis. For instance, when we face an unexpected termination of a job, a coming meeting with an aggressive person or a sudden death of our loved one. In fact, dwelling on these could help us to come up with strategies and plans …
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A client of mine felt depressed and had low motivation for leisure activities after he had resigned for his stressful job. He told me, “I feel depressed about myself having low motivation for exercising and taking good care of myself even when I do not need to go to work.” He was diagnosed to suffer …
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I was questioned by my client one day that if we accept our thoughts as it is but not as facts, there seems to be no meaning in our lives anymore. His argument is based on the discussion of him having a thought, “I need to stay in the present moment and not worrying about …
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When we encounter someone with narcissistic personality traits in our social circle or in our family, it is difficult for us not to be trapped by their tactics of feeding their own narcissism hunger by boosting and bullying others in order to control. For instance, a client of mine tended to mindlessly satisfy the narcissistic …
A client of mine had an enmeshed relationship with her narcissistic father, whom she needed to please and meet his unrealistic standard throughout her childhood. Her tendency to please her father was related to survival in the family in her childhood, as well as a way to seek approval and love from him. However, deep …
