A client of mine strongly believed that she’s unlovable and unworthy frequently felt upset when others are not paying attention to her or are omitting her for gatherings. She tended to pick up minor cues that triggered her negative thoughts about others are disliking her or isolating her. For instance, when her colleagues told her …
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In the newly released Marvel movie “Shang-chi”, one of the most impressive presentation was the relationship between Shang-chi and his father, Wenwu. As Shang-chi lost his mother at young age and his father raised him in a very strict and harsh way, Shang-chi’s childhood was atypical and he had complicated feelings towards his father. In …
Throughout the 20 years of my practice as a clinical psychologist, many people asked me similar questions, “Is psychotherapy just a chit chat?” “How does chit chat in psychotherapy different from my chit chat with family and friends?”. In fact, asking such a question is similar to asking “How does a professional photographer’s way of …
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Many clients of mine complained about their friends seldom initiated chats or gatherings with them. They felt that their friends only contact them when they were in need and intended to seek help or support from them. They had a feeling that they were not important to their friends because they did not prioritize to check on …
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It is inevitable for us to face different kinds of losses in our lives. We might have faced losing our loved ones, our jobs, or even our health that causing us distress and mixed feelings. Sometimes, we questioned why we had to face such a loss and wanted to find reasons for the loss. It …
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As human beings, we cannot escape from our automatic judgment on others whom we thought are different from us. We tend to judge those people who did something that we disapprove or did not do something that we perceive to be a neccesary act. For instance, an in-law relative negatively judged her cousin’s wife who …
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