Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Non-pathologizing those with sensory processing sensitivity as we look into the research evidence.

Are you easily overwhlemed by external stimulation?  Do you have higher than average empathy?  Do you have high emotional reactivity?  If your answers are “yes” to these questions, you may have a genetically determined temperament trait known as Sensory Process Sensitivity (SPS).  Usually, people with this trait are known as Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).  However, …

How to regulate our emotions when we overreact to external stress?

Throughout our lives, we inevitably had experiences of stress.  Sometimes, due to our limitations and some environmental factors, we might be traumatized by these stressful incidents.  As a result, we might overreact in the face of future similar external stressors due to the impacts of these trauma on us.   A client of mine was frequently …

How to step out from rumination in depression and take action?

People often find it very difficult for them to ask their closed ones to stop ruminating when their closed ones are depressed.  It is common that no matter how hard one tried, the depressed person cannot step out from thinking about his or her worthlessness or hopelessness.  For instance, a client of mine sufferred from …

Why some people repeatedly being trapped in relationships with narcissists?

It is quite common for us to see some people repeatedly dating similar abusive partners with narcissistic traits.  One of my clients was trapped in a romantic relationship with a man with such traits.  In the surface, her boyfriend took care of her in every details of her life.  For instance, he accompanied her to …

Can we forgive ourselves and embrace our flaws?

A friend of mine shared an experience with me about having bought a fake jade in a street market during travelling. She mentioned that she was obsessed in searching for information about how to differentiate real and fake jade throughout her trip. She also kept feeling upset about the possibility that she had bought a …

Is there only one way to celebrate the Valentine’s Day?

For many people, celebrating the Valentine’s Day is important as it is the time for them to show their love to their another half.  Lovers are looking forward to enjoy a memorable dinner and exchanging gifts with each other.  Many ladies are also looking forward to receiving flowers from their partners.  However, if we look …