How could we better deal with our negative emotions and cognitions?

When we face challenges or difficulties, it is common for us to experience negative emotions, such as sadness, anxiety or anger.  It is natural that we tend to try hard to get rid of these negative emotions.  With these negative emotions, we often also have accompanied negative cognitions.  For example, a staff who was criticized …

How to set boundary in the workplace?

Many of my clients told me that there are a lot of uncertainties in the global economy and they are facing a lot of stressors in their lives.  One of the stressors is the threat of being laid off by their employers.  Companies are starting to manage their costs and restructure their organizations due to …

In the face of challenges and difficulties, it is important for us to ground ourselves

One of my clients had gone through a rollercoaster ride of her emotions in recent promotional opportunity at work.  At the beginning, she held very high expectation on her application for the promotion.  She even spent long hours for writing a proposal for presenting in the job interview.  She told me that there are signs …

It is common that we tend to expell the part of ourselves that we found unacceptable onto others

A professional client of mine described an incident in which his client showed mistrust on his scheduling and thought he manipulated her.  He actually was a very honest and trustworthy professional and a very competent practitioner.  He felt very upset about a minority of clients mistrusting him.  He told me that nearly all of his …

It is important to combine assertiveness with compassion in managing relationhship issues

It is common for all of us to think in a dichotomous term that either we should be assertive and focus on setting our boundaries with others or we should be compassionate of the sufferings of others and be more accommodating.  Is it possible for us to be both compassionate and assertive?  A client of …

It is important for us to strike a balance between our subjectivity and objectivity

All of us may have experiences of realizing that our judgment on others basing on limited information may usually be different from the reality.  For instance, a customer service staff subjectively thought that a client who presented himself as very polite and respectful on the phone was a very nice person with good intention.  She …