Christmas is usually a time for reunion with family members and friends. Most people look forward to parties and gatherings for socializing and sharing of their happy moments. However, it is also common for some people to be alone during Christmas holiday due to various reasons. With all the commercials and posting on social media, …
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Before judging, let us understand more about the impact of individual differences and environmental influences on one’s mental health
Very often, many clients asked me that given the same family environment in their childhood with their siblings, why not all siblings in the same family suffer from the same mental disorders? Are they weaker or having more defects? In our culture, comparison with peers is very common and we are programed to compare with …
Vulnerability is not weakness. On the contrary, opening up to vulnerability makes us more grounded and solid.
Very often, when we face failure or setback, we heard our close ones telling us to be strong and tough. When a lady found out her husband had extra-marital affair, her female friends adviced her to stay strong and to separate with her husband. When a gentleman lost a promotion opportunity, his close friends suggested …
In the movie, “Time Still Turns The Pages”, it is important not to judge and embrace the fact that we all are influenced by multiple biological and environmental factors
The movie, “Time Still Turns The Pages”, awakened our awareness of the impact of childhood trauma on a person’s psychological makeup and life trajectory. Sometimes, people tended to judge those who suffered from depression and attempted suicide. These people might think that those who sufferred from depression had weak willpower and they should learn to …
The possible ambivalence of women in the face of men with narcissistic personality traits
In my clinic work, it is common to see a lady repeatedly trapped in relationships with men who were abusive and manipulative. Sometimes, these women were unable to get the support they needed because the abusive partners were exceptionally friendly, charming and altruistic in public. In closed door at home, these men were abusive and …
If you are depressed, try to cultivate self-compassion
It is common for people suffering from depression to feel hopeless and helpless in their mental condition and external environment. As a result, they do not have motivation in their life and even have thoughts about ending their lives. A client of mine had exacerbated depressive mood after finding out her chance for being promoted …
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