What is adult ADHD?

A client of mine has been working in his company for 15 years.  All along, he related well with his colleagues and had normal job performance.  However, after being promoted to a middle management position, he started to have problems in organizing and managing his work.  He also had difficulties to meet deadlines and manage …

Who am I? Am I my illness? Am I my career? Am I my family roles?

When you meet a group of strangers in a networking event, what would you tell these people about yourself?  If this networking event is a work-related function, you may tell these strangers about what you do in your career.  If this event is a social gathering orgainsed by one of your friends, you may tell …

Are you anxious towards having a relationship with others?

A client of mine tended to feel very insecure in her relationship with her boyfriend and close friends.  Whenever her boyfriend delayed in replying her text messages, she would preccupied with worries about him being with another girl or being less loving towards her.  After sending her boyfriend a text message, she would check her …

Personality disorders and infidelity

It is common to see infidelity in drama and movies.  In reality, infidelity is more common than you think.  According to an article in Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, more than 50% of men and women admitted that they committed infidelity in any relationship they ever had.  In this sense, we are more susceptible …

A reflection on the 13th anniversary – an everlasting evolution

Upon reflecting on my 20-year journey of being a clinical psychologist, I found out that my path and way of doing psychotherapy is constantly evolving.  This week marks the 13th anniversary of my private practice.  Looking back, the journey of private practice is full of challenges and blessings.  Among the thousands of clients I had …

Why do our core beliefs developed from childhood so hardwired?

A client of mine strongly believed that she’s unlovable and unworthy frequently felt upset when others are not paying attention to her or are omitting her for gatherings.  She tended to pick up minor cues that triggered her negative thoughts about others are disliking her or isolating her.  For instance, when her colleagues told her …