Our addiction to our pleasurable feelings

From social media to delicious dessert, we may all experience our desire to obtain more pleasurable feelings from various channels.  When we made a posting on social media, we might be tempted to check our accounts more often to see how many “reactions” we obtained from our friends.  When we opened a pack of potatoes …

To treasure the ordinary but essential in our life

A client of mine came to me and told me about her unexpectedly intense grief reaction towards the passing away of her dog.  She mentioned that she felt very empty and sad for a few weeks even after accompanying her dog to go through cancer treatment and expecting her death due to exacerbation of her …

How to learn to trust for those with wounds from childhood trauma?

When I walked to the MTR station today for work, I saw a lady walking her dog in the street.  The dog seemed to be a rescued and adopted dog.  Another old lady was walking nearby with a trolley.  The dog was reluctant to follow the lady to continue the walk.  The dog seemed scared …

Seeing things with Beginner’s Mind

In my practice, it is common for my clients to ask me for a clinical diagnosis for their presenting problems.  Sometimes, they feel more certain for knowing that they have a concrete diagnosis about their issues.  With thorough assessment and continuation of therapy sessions, I often find my client’s presenting problems are only the tip …

Can we separate good fortune and bad fortune?

Happy Year of Dragon! How did you celebrate Chinese New Year? Having lots of delicious meals? Getting lots of Lai See from relatives and friends?  It is our tradition to wish each other good luck and good health in this important festival. When we do this, we unknowingly separate good luck and bad luck, good …

To give ourselves space for our emotions during the grief process

In recent few months, there were sad news about suicides of some celebrities.  In fact, there were also many people in the general public committed suicides recently.  How can family members and friends of these deceased go through their grief process in the face of the coming of Chinese New Year?  How can we help …