A client of mine tended to feel very insecure in her relationship with her boyfriend and close friends. Whenever her boyfriend delayed in replying her text messages, she would preccupied with worries about him being with another girl or being less loving towards her. After sending her boyfriend a text message, she would check her …
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It is common to see infidelity in drama and movies. In reality, infidelity is more common than you think. According to an article in Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, more than 50% of men and women admitted that they committed infidelity in any relationship they ever had. In this sense, we are more susceptible …
Upon reflecting on my 20-year journey of being a clinical psychologist, I found out that my path and way of doing psychotherapy is constantly evolving. This week marks the 13th anniversary of my private practice. Looking back, the journey of private practice is full of challenges and blessings. Among the thousands of clients I had …
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A client of mine strongly believed that she’s unlovable and unworthy frequently felt upset when others are not paying attention to her or are omitting her for gatherings. She tended to pick up minor cues that triggered her negative thoughts about others are disliking her or isolating her. For instance, when her colleagues told her …
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In the newly released Marvel movie “Shang-chi”, one of the most impressive presentation was the relationship between Shang-chi and his father, Wenwu. As Shang-chi lost his mother at young age and his father raised him in a very strict and harsh way, Shang-chi’s childhood was atypical and he had complicated feelings towards his father. In …
Throughout the 20 years of my practice as a clinical psychologist, many people asked me similar questions, “Is psychotherapy just a chit chat?” “How does chit chat in psychotherapy different from my chit chat with family and friends?”. In fact, asking such a question is similar to asking “How does a professional photographer’s way of …
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