In my clinical practice, it is common for perfectionists to seek help from me due to various reasons. For instance, a lady could not accept herself making mistakes at work and engage in repetitive checking before sending out emails to colleagues. Due to her perfectionism, she also had severe problem in procrastination. As a result, …
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It is beyond dispute that emerging adulthood is a stage for young adults to explore and create possibilities in ones’ life. It is common for us to see that the identity of this group of adults is still emerging. How about people in the middle adulthood? Those around 40/45 to 60/65 years old are also …
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Whenever I suggested my clients to practice mindfulness in every day life, they sometimes told me that it is very difficult for them to stay focus to be mindful to their present. They are usually easily being caught up with their busy mind. For instance, a lady who had gone through grief for the passing …
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Have you ever got lost in a movie and are absorbed by it? You may not realise the persons sitting next to you in the cinema are crying or using their mobile phones. Have you ever felt numb immediately after being told some sad news, such as the passing of a loved ones? Have you …
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We may come across someone in our workplace or in our social circle who tend to enjoy solitary activity and seldom engage in group gatherings. For instance, a client of mine, despite being good-looking and intelligent, seldom accepted the invitation from his colleagues for lunch gatherings. He was always emotionally distant. In fact, even when …
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Through socialization, we learned to define ourselves basing on our external realities. For instance, one of my clients identified herself as a “bad daughter-in-law” due to her poor relationship with her mother-in-law. As her mother-in-law treated her badly since she married her son, she could not relate with her normally. In fact, her mother-in-law criticized …
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