Sudden out-of-proportion anger outburst may be related to one’s childhood trauma

Sometimes, when we saw someone exhibiting sudden out-of-proportion anger outbursts, we may infer that this person probably has poor temper control.  We may be tempted to judge this person and differentiate ourselves with him or her.  We may see ourselves as having better emotional management.  In some toxic relationship, a spouse may criticize another half …

Letting go of our yearning for order and understanding

For those with tendency to procrastinate, one of the issues they encounter is that they rumination about having everything in order or having full understanding of everything.  In fact, it is tempting for us to strive from orderliness and understanding for what we encounter.  It is because this illusionary “full and ordered picture” settled our …

Sense of loneliness and emotional connection

It is common for a person living in a metropolitan city saying that one is having a sense of  loneliness even when being with a group of friends.  A client of mine told me that he felt lonely all the time, even he has two children and a lovely wife.  He also has regular social …

The vicious cycle of struggling during a depressive episode

Even though more people are being aware of the importance of destigmatization of mental illness, it is still difficult for one to accept being in a depressive episode.  On the contrary, some people might feel “proud” of being mentally well or feeling happy in general.  They might think they did really well to maintain their mental well-being.  There …

The demanding part of a depressed person

Nowadays, well-being and happiness are important aspects that people striving to achieve.  Unknowingly, we all tend to present our best self with physical and mental well-being in front of others.  With this expectation in mind, it may be difficult for us to accept the days when we feel depressed.  We may criticize ourselves for being …

As a trauma-survivor, is the relationship between you and your therapist conducive to your healing?

To varying degree, we all may have trauma in our developmental history.  In the culture of striving for achievement and perfectionism, being criticized and demanded by our parents in the childhood is common.  As everyone of us has our own dark sides, it is inevitable for us to face subtle or intense bullying in some …