How to learn to trust for those with wounds from childhood trauma?

When I walked to the MTR station today for work, I saw a lady walking her dog in the street.  The dog seemed to be a rescued and adopted dog.  Another old lady was walking nearby with a trolley.  The dog was reluctant to follow the lady to continue the walk.  The dog seemed scared …

Seeing things with Beginner’s Mind

In my practice, it is common for my clients to ask me for a clinical diagnosis for their presenting problems.  Sometimes, they feel more certain for knowing that they have a concrete diagnosis about their issues.  With thorough assessment and continuation of therapy sessions, I often find my client’s presenting problems are only the tip …

Can we separate good fortune and bad fortune?

Happy Year of Dragon! How did you celebrate Chinese New Year? Having lots of delicious meals? Getting lots of Lai See from relatives and friends?  It is our tradition to wish each other good luck and good health in this important festival. When we do this, we unknowingly separate good luck and bad luck, good …

To give ourselves space for our emotions during the grief process

In recent few months, there were sad news about suicides of some celebrities.  In fact, there were also many people in the general public committed suicides recently.  How can family members and friends of these deceased go through their grief process in the face of the coming of Chinese New Year?  How can we help …

Are we living according to our goals or our values?

I met a special taxi driver today on my way to work.  He had ridden me and my husband a few times before.  Both me and my husband were amazed by his positive and energetic vibe.  He told us that he is currently more than 60 years old.  In fact, he looks like a young …

The dichotomous thinking of shifting between striving for our desire and letting go of any wants

Minimalism is becoming more popular among those who embrace freedom and peace.  It is common for us to see people who live in this attitude to let go of all the desires or wants in their lives.  For instance, a client of mine started to live with minimal material possessions and give away all his …