Are you doubting yourself for pursuing your New Year aspiration?

Happy New Year!  It is hopeful for all of us to have a new start in 2023.  Some of us may already made New Year’s resolutions and commenced to act according to our plans.  However, some people may be hestitated to start pursuing their aspirations due to lack of self confidence or constant self doubts.  …

Ready for a reflection on meaning of life for New Year?

There are many different ways to celebrate New Year.  For some people, it may be a time for them to take rest and enjoy being with loved ones after a year of hard work.  For others, it may be a time for them to reflect on different aspects in the past one year and make New Year’s …

If you feel stuck, learn to listen to the voice of your inner child

It is common for us to reflect on our lives in the year end and make New Year’s resolution.  It is satisfying to be able to summarize the past one year as fruitful and rewarding.  For those who found themselves successful in accomplishing what was planned, it was encouraging to make plans to go further …

The more we try to control our anxiety in social situations, the more socially anxious we become

With the lessening of restrictions for social distancing due to Covid, people are enjoying more social gatherings and parties in December.  Many of my clients feel anxious about receiving more invitations for gatherings weeks around Christmas and New Year.  For my clients with social anxiety, resuming to attend social gatherings and parties is anxiety-provoking after …

The paradox of practicing mindfulness in managing emotions

In my clinical practic, I frequently incorporated mindfulness practice to help my clients with different issues.  Quite often, my clients may say, “I tried to practice the mindfulness exercise you teach me a few times, but I did not feel anything and no effects occurred after the practice.”  When my client with anxiety issue said …

How to relate with immature parents without overreacting emotionally?

One my of client commented once, “I doubt the saying that all parents love their children and they will always be available for me emotionally.”  This client has a mother with narcissistic personality traits and a father with borderline personality traits.  Throughout her childhood, she did not receive adequate care both physically and emotionally by …