We may come across someone in our workplace or in our social circle who tend to enjoy solitary activity and seldom engage in group gatherings. For instance, a client of mine, despite being good-looking and intelligent, seldom accepted the invitation from his colleagues for lunch gatherings. He was always emotionally distant. In fact, even when …
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Through socialization, we learned to define ourselves basing on our external realities. For instance, one of my clients identified herself as a “bad daughter-in-law” due to her poor relationship with her mother-in-law. As her mother-in-law treated her badly since she married her son, she could not relate with her normally. In fact, her mother-in-law criticized …
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Some of my clients are really kind and nice persons to me. They frequently are being bothered by the politics of their workplace. Even though some of them are already good at noticing red flags of their colleagues who may want to manipulate others in some incidents, they felt very annoyed and uncomfortable for having …
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Anxiety and fear are common emotions. Functionally, these two emotions are signals for us to be alert to threats and danger. In my clinical experience, clients often tend to obsess in totally eliminating their anxiety and fear. It is because they usually find these two emotions as aversive and unpleasant. For those with social anxiety, …
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Most of the people have experience of having mixed emotions towards someone. A client of mine was frequently being criticized and physicall abused by her father in childhood. When she talked about this in the therapy session, she experienced anger towards her father. She thought that what her father did to her was unacceptable and …
Are you easily overwhlemed by external stimulation? Do you have higher than average empathy? Do you have high emotional reactivity? If your answers are “yes” to these questions, you may have a genetically determined temperament trait known as Sensory Process Sensitivity (SPS). Usually, people with this trait are known as Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). However, …
