The lack of focus of the mental states of oneself and others in people with Borderline Personality Disorder

It is common for people to say that it is difficult to understand the behavior and thinking of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).  One of my clients with BPD threw temper towards her husband for not replying her text messages related to her request for accompanying her to a medical appointment.  In the dialogue …

Pain is inevitable in our life and suffering may be avoidable

After seeing the movie, Oppenheimer, I discussed with my friends about if we were Oppenheimer, would we decide to lead the Manhattan Project given the possibility of being involved in political dynamics and experiencing intense ambivalence of having great success in history and contributing to destructive actions in wars.  Given the ambiguity of the possibility …

Being who really are with both our unique feminine and masculine qualities

Many people went to see the movie, “Barbie” recently.  Many of them may have one or a few Barbie dolls in their childhood.  Who does not fancy to become the stereotypical ideal feminine figure living in the perfect world?  In this movie, Barbies are living in the Barbieland, a matriarchal society where women dominated and …

Healthy boundaries in using mobile phone and social media

Some surveys showed that the average usage of mobile phones for a person is around three hours each day.  People are scrolling their phones everywhere, such as bus, restaurant, clinic, or shopping malls.  It is a common practice to follow our contacts in social media accounts.  On the one hand, we would like to have …

Embracing our emotions in the face of loss

As we grow older, it is inevitable for us to face many losses in our lives.  For instances, we may go through grief for divorce, loss of our loved ones through death, being fired in our job, miscarriage, or chronic illness.  When we are going through grief, it is normal and natural for us to …

Mindfulness centered on the body as we are suffering from negative emotions

The recent death of the world-renowned artist Coco Lee saddened and shocked many of us.  Her sister stated that Coco had been suffering from depression for a few years.  It is beyond dispute that Coco had been tolerating her psychological pain throughout the years.  No matter what would be the findings in autopsy, it is …