The identity issue and unstable interpersonal relationship of Borderline Personality Disorder

Identity disturbance and unstable interpersonal relationship are two core characteristics of people with Borderline Personality disorder (BPD).  People with BPD have persistent unstable self-image or sense of self.  In psychology, the “self” or identity is an individual’s conception of oneself in a self-reflective process.  In fact, there are four levels of “self”, according to William …

How to cultivate well-being in the face of adversities?

People around the world are still trying very hard to get back to normal life in the face of the pandemic.  Due to the recent reduction of confirmed cases in Hong Kong, more and more people are resuming activities that they used to enjoy.  For instances, people are going back to the gym and yoga …

How can I improve my attention if I have adult ADHD?

One of my clients had difficulty in sustaining a stable job throughout his life.  Whenever I talked to him, he seemed to have difficulty in listening the details of our conversation.  He had difficulty in focusing on boring tasks such as writing a detailed sales report for his boss.  He was disorganised in most of …

The challenges of immigration – developing strength through courage

In recent two years, more and more Hongkongers are considering immigrating to other countries.  It is common for most of us to have friends planning to immigrate and even departing without thorough preparation.  It is quite a challenge for people in different age groups to relocate themselves in a new country with only minimal planning …

From the movie, Soul, to whether there is a “self”

Many people had already seen the animated movie, Soul, and found it very inspiring and touching.  The middle school music teacher, Joe Gardner, aspired to be a jazz performer.  After being selected by the jazz legend Dorothea Williams in an audition to be a performer in a night show, he fell down a hole on …

To embrace the dark side of finding our meaning and being authentic

A client of mine experienced depressive mood and anxiety due to the feeling of being trapped by his current job.  He worked in an upper management position in a multinational company and enjoyed high income and social status.  However, he found himself having low motivation for work in recent one year after a further promotion.  …