A client of mine had an enmeshed relationship with her narcissistic father, whom she needed to please and meet his unrealistic standard throughout her childhood. Her tendency to please her father was related to survival in the family in her childhood, as well as a way to seek approval and love from him. However, deep …
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How to cope with midlife crisis?
Due to medical advancement, the lifespan of human has been increased. Middle adulthood is redefined and people around age 40 to 65 are at middle age. In this stage of life, ones’ children attain adulthood and ones may also become grandparents. People started to realize their lives are limited and started to think what to …
Why some people think they are losers when making a mistake and other people do not?
One of my clients tended to think he was a loser whenever he made a mistake at work or in interpersonal relationships. One day, he came to me and told me, “I shouldn’t let my colleague know my lack of motivation at work due to demoralization within the team. I am so stupid. I am …
Creativity may be one of the ways to cope with our bereavement
One of my clients had gone through bereavement for her husband’s sudden death. She was overwhelmed by her loss and seemed to be very depressed for a long time during the grief process. In fact, she lost her father at young age due to his terminal illness. Losing a parental figure at her young age …
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Role coercion in interpersonal relationships for those who are being “too nice”
One of my clients told me that he usually ended up in friend groups of three and was being isolated by the other two persons. This client is a very “nice guy” who always says “yes” and is very considerate to his friends. As time goes by, this client became very successful in his career. …
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Are you feeling secure when being with your romantic partner?
Among my clients, many of them feel insecure in their relationship with their romantic partners. They frequently felt worried about being betrayed or abandoned by their partners. Since some of them are being abused in their childhood, it is common for them to develop insecure attachment styles, such as ambivalent attachment or avoidant attachment styles. …
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