How to step out from rumination in depression and take action?

People often find it very difficult for them to ask their closed ones to stop ruminating when their closed ones are depressed.  It is common that no matter how hard one tried, the depressed person cannot step out from thinking about his or her worthlessness or hopelessness.  For instance, a client of mine sufferred from …

Why some people repeatedly being trapped in relationships with narcissists?

It is quite common for us to see some people repeatedly dating similar abusive partners with narcissistic traits.  One of my clients was trapped in a romantic relationship with a man with such traits.  In the surface, her boyfriend took care of her in every details of her life.  For instance, he accompanied her to …

Can we forgive ourselves and embrace our flaws?

A friend of mine shared an experience with me about having bought a fake jade in a street market during travelling. She mentioned that she was obsessed in searching for information about how to differentiate real and fake jade throughout her trip. She also kept feeling upset about the possibility that she had bought a …

Is there only one way to celebrate the Valentine’s Day?

For many people, celebrating the Valentine’s Day is important as it is the time for them to show their love to their another half.  Lovers are looking forward to enjoy a memorable dinner and exchanging gifts with each other.  Many ladies are also looking forward to receiving flowers from their partners.  However, if we look …

The different facets of people with Borderline Personality Disorders

If you come across people with Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD), you may find them very unpredictable.  Their mood and behaviors shift quickly and it is difficult for you to understand what is going on in their mind.  This sudden shift in feeling, thinking and behavior contributes to the multiple facets of people with BPD.  For …

We did not fully develop our identity without fully accepting the damage of our trauma

It is common for people who had experienced childhood trauma to develop addiction in their lives.  Since the pain from their childhood trauma is longstanding and unbearable, people tend to suppress these pain and resort to addiction to cope with their negative internal experiences.